We used these ideas to help our children on their spiritual journeys.
By Dennis and Barbara Rainey
Does your child have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ? If not, pray that God will grant you or others the opportunity to share the gospel. Without Christ and the power of the Holy Spirit in our lives, no one will turn away from worshipping false gods.
But even with Christ in our lives, we all are tempted in the flesh to serve lesser gods. That’s why we sought to help our children develop the following convictions as they matured in their faith:
· Jesus Christ must be my Savior and Lord.
· Regular prayer must be a crucial part of my daily life.
· I must be the same person in private that I am in public.
· The Scriptures are God’s Word and serve as my daily guide.
· Nothing is more thrilling than fulfilling God’s mission for my life.
· I will pass on a godly legacy to the next generation.
To help build these convictions into the lives of our children, we emphasized a number of key spiritual disciplines:
1. Prayer
Our approach to prayer at home was to make it a part of daily life and events. Of course we prayed at meals and bedtimes and with individual children when needs arose. We prayed before tests and tryouts and trips. We prayed for overseas missions we supported, for requests that came through our prayer chain, and for everyone in the public schools our children attended. We prayed as we drove the children to school, and when they began to drive, we reminded them to pray. We also prayed during our family devotions in the morning before school.
2. Bible study
Our children grew up hearing Bible stories from the time they were very small. When we had preschoolers, we helped them learn verses from a Bible memory program. We did some more formal Bible study with our teens in junior high and early in high school, but it was sporadic because of schedules.
Young teens often don’t feel the need to study the Bible by themselves in their own quiet time. We didn’t see our teens take much initiative until they reached high-school age. The desire for personal Bible study seemed to come when they were on their own more and they saw their need to develop their relationship with God, to learn what He was telling them.
We could have imposed more Bible study on our teens, but we really wanted them to see the value of a close relationship with the Lord modeled in our lives.
On a fairly consistent basis Dennis went through the book of Proverbs with each child in high school. This book has some of the best wisdom for life issues, such as how to make good decisions concerning the opposite sex, how to make right choices, how to work, and how to be a faithful and responsible steward of what God has given you.
#3 Church involvement
Participation in the life of a church is a must. Your children may not always agree. Our boys went through a time when they didn’t want to go. Because they were also involved in other Christian youth activities, we told them they didn’t have to participate in our church’s youth group but that missing Sunday morning worship was not an option.
Sunday needs to be a special day for many reasons, the most important being the opportunity to participate in a formal time to worship the true God.
#4 Mission-mindedness
From early on, we let our children know that God has a special mission for their lives and that He gifted them with abilities, personality, and certain qualities that will help accomplish His plan. We wanted our children to know that it would be better to be the lowliest worker in the will of God than the biggest success by worldly standards if doing so meant they were outside of God’s will. We also emphasized that God calls His people to all kinds of vocations—not just the mission field—and that pleasing us was not a good enough reason to become missionaries.
One of the most important strategic moves you can ever make is to send your child to junior high and high school with a challenge to begin looking for ways to fulfill God’s unique purpose for their lives. When Jesus gave the disciples the Great Commission, He was in essence giving them a mission. Read His command and words carefully, “Go therefore and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all things that I commanded you; and lo, I am with you always, even to the end of the age” (Matthew 28:19-20).
In the same way, teenagers need a challenging mission. Your kids need a higher purpose that will compel them to seek after God and His calling on their lives rather than to follow the herd after the lesser gods of popularity, selfishness, etc.
As our children moved into their teenage years, we told them they could become either a mission field or a missionary at school. A mission-field teenager is peer-dependent. A missionary teenager seeks to reach out to his peers and help them find Christ. Mission-field teens go with the flow of peer pressure; missionary teens grow in character and conviction, because they are fighting the current.
One way your child can practically follow Jesus’ mandate is to get involved with a student ministry on their campus. Or if there is not already an active ministry on campus, help your child get something started, like Cru High School. We helped our kids start a campus ministry and the benefits to our own family were remarkable. We found that involvement in a campus group creates a powerful sense of community for a preteen or teenager at school, the very place where negative peer pressure can be overwhelming. Our children received vital spiritual support through the encouragement and prayer of fellow teenagers, as well as through the adult leaders.
Another practical way to instill a mission mindset in your child is to go together on a short-term mission trip, either here in the United States or overseas. In addition to the impact you will have for Christ, you will find that your child will change in significant ways as he moves out of his normal comfort zone and sees the need that others have for Christ.
One year Barbara took our three youngest daughters, Rebecca, Deborah, and Laura, on a two-week mission trip to Russia. Our girls had the privilege of handing out good news bracelets and Bibles. Two of them gave the gospel presentation through our interpreter. It was an experience they will never forget. Our girls gained a far greater appreciation for what we enjoy in this country, because they have seen firsthand what life is like for people in another land. They have tasted both the sacrifice and the joy of being a missionary.
#5 Conference attendance
One of the most effective tools we used is youth conferences. These events may only take a few days, but they can grow your child’s faith, encourage him to make it his own, and give him a vision for reaching out to students at his school.
In addition to our church’s excellent spiritual life conferences for youth, we sent our children to a youth conference sponsored by Cru High School and also to “Mind Games,” a workshop organized by Probe Ministries to help teenagers develop a defense for their faith prior to college. Samuel attended this his senior year and wanted to go back the following year. This is a spiritually challenging retreat that gives these teens a head start on developing a God-centered view of life and world issues.
Adapted from Parenting Today’s Adolescent: Helping Your Child Avoid the Traps of the Preteen and Teen Years. Copyright by Dennis and Barbara Rainey. Used by permission of Thomas Nelson, Inc., Publishers.
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