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15 Ways to Please Your Husband

Enhance your husband’s self-worth by discovering—and doing—what pleases him.

By Barbara Rainey

Romans 15:2 tells us, “Let each of us please his neighbor for his good, to build him up.”

Who is your closest neighbor? Your husband. How can you edify (build, improve) your spouse and thereby enhance his self-worth? By discovering—and doing—what pleases him.

If you are creative, pleasing your husband may be a natural part of your personality. But a less creative person may need some coaching in becoming a husband pleaser. And all of us need an occasional cue card to remind us to reach out.

Here are a few ideas:

1. Write him a letter and send it to his office, or put a love note in his lunchbox or briefcase.

2. Prepare his favorite meal.

3. Arrange an evening out for just the two of you.

4. Wear his favorite dress with your hair done the way he likes it.

5. Purchase something small and frivolous for him that he won’t buy for himself.

6. Give him a nicely framed picture of yourself, or of you and the children, for his office.

7. Surprise him with an all-expense-paid trip to do something he likes, such as golf, fishing, or hunting.

8. Put the children to bed early and prepare a candlelit dinner.

9. Do something that especially pleased him when you were dating.

10. Read Scriptures and pray with him regularly.

11. Take walks together.

12. Keep your junk out of the garage.

13. Greet him warmly after work.

14. Wear his favorite negligee or buy a new nightgown to add sizzle to your evening attire.

15. Clean out the car for him.

Sometimes the smallest gestures can make the biggest difference in your marriage. Pick out something you haven’t tried before; don’t give complacency a foothold in your marriage relationship.

Copyright © by FamilyLife. Used with permission.

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